Couples in conflict often forget that things are not in black and white. The answers to improved communication are often found in the gray, and the “unspoken”.
Partnerships of any kind take work to maintain, obviously. When they are good, long-lasting, and function in a healthy way, they’re wonderful.
But many times, life stresses usurp healthy communication, then couples get into what I call, “The Dance”; a series of knee-jerk reactions, defensive responses, and assumptions that break down even the healthiest of communications.
My job is not to try to keep you together, nor encourage you to separate. My job is to provide a compassionate space for exploration, adaptation, understanding and acceptance, so YOU can decide the best course of action. There are modalities that encourage conflict avoidance, and I do not subscribe to them. Being honest and open to resolving conflicts in the safest and most compassionate way possible, is the only way to stop “The Dance”, and learn a healthier way of listening and communicating.
Words like compromise and capitulation are replaced with accommodation and adaptation. Semantics, sure, but the former denote sacrifice of self, while the latter are a generous gift of choice.
To book your free 30-minute introductory session, to see if it’s a good fit for us to work together, please call the office: (845) 758-0563.
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